Sure, surprises are fun and all, but just not when it comes to bondage… Being restrained can be triggering for some people, so it’s important to chat to your flame about both of your desires and limits first.
Discussing new ideas for the bedroom can be daunting and many people treat themselves to a bit of liquid courage before drunkenly making suggestions. While this approach may work for other sexual adventures, we suggest you steer clear of the booze when it comes to bondage as the two don’t mix. When restraints are involved, you’re not only responsible for your bae's pleasure but their safety too.
When speaking to your partner, be sure to ask open questions to gain insight into their point-of-view and their feelings about trying couples bondage for the first time:
I've got a fantasy where one of us is in charge during sex. What do you think?
How would you feel about playing with a blindfold when we go to bed?
How would you feel if we looked on Couple's Paradise for some handcuffs and things for the bedroom?
Talking through this kind of fantasy helps you to relate better as a couple and can also expand your own thoughts on the subject, explain your feelings, which allows them to empathize and even elaborate on your fantasy.
